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Fly Like Your Life Depended On It

Someone once asked me, “Why don’t you have a man?”
I laughed. “I do, actually.”

He kept prying, so I snapped. “If you don’t want to help, move on. You don’t get the right to interrogate me just because I’m asking for something. If you intend to give, do it quietly. If not, do that quietly too.”

I “fly a sign,” or panhandle, to make quick cash for drugs. I’m going to explain the exact toll that takes — my view from this side of the light. Let’s start with your first question: Do we spend it on drugs?

Yes, the majority of it.

No one I knew flew a sign for any other reason. Sure, we bought food sometimes, maybe clothing. I bought several phones over the years. But most of the money went to drugs and alcohol.

Don’t let that stop you from giving. In a strange way, it can cut down on crime in your community. The person you see at the intersection may be trying to survive the only way they know how at that moment. Without a few dollars from strangers, desperation can push people toward worse choices.

It’s almost impossible to maintain identification when you’re homeless. Our belongings are stored out in the open and get stolen all the time. Without ID, most jobs, housing, and services are out of reach. Flying a sign doesn’t require any of that.

We can’t shower regularly, wash clothes, clothing, camping gear, beauty products, and food.
My favorite things were the bags people put together specifically for the homeless. Those usually included hygiene items, snacks, socks, hats, gloves, hand warmers — things that made surviving the day or night a little easier.

It’s quick, easy money — but at what cost? You never hold your head up while doing it. The looks I got were heartbreaking, sometimes infuriating. You have to grow thick skin just to stand there.

And it isn’t just humiliating — it can be dangerous. Panhandling angers people more than you might think. There’s always the risk that someone will yell, threaten you, or worse. Then there’s the constant police harassment. Officers used to pull up and run my name, hoping I had a warrant.

Next time you see someone panhandling, remember — at least they aren’t committing bank robbery.

It’s not always quick, easy cash. I’ve stood for hours and made only a few dollars, and I’ve made over a hundred in less than an hour. It’s hit or miss — another reason I’m choosing to stick with writing.

But the best part isn’t always the money. It’s the thought that someone chose to give it. That moment of being seen. And money isn’t all you receive out there. I’ve been given blankets, clothing, camping gear, beauty products, and food.

My favorite things were the bags people put together specifically for the homeless. Those usually included hygiene items, snacks, socks, hats, gloves, hand warmers — things that made surviving the day or night a little easier.

The next time you’re faced with the choice, do this: give if you can, but never put yourself at risk to help someone else. If you give, be grateful that you are able to do it — because one day, you might be the one forced to ask for help, and you’ll want the answer to be yes.
If you truly believe nobody should ever have to help anyone else, then smile and drive on. But know this: people’s smiles carried me far more than their cash ever did.

When focus was lost, hope is found

I was asked to write about a habit I developed on the streets, and I knew this wouldn’t be easy—because I developed so many. The thing is, I don’t always see these habits until someone else points them out.

The habit I want to focus on is survival without focus. On the streets, focus isn’t necessary. Once you’re in survival mode, everything else becomes a distraction. It’s wash, rinse, repeat.

Attention to anything beyond survival feels like a luxury. Now, focus is mostly lost to me. It’s hard to regain, and it feels like a luxury I can’t afford. Writing is already helping me notice it—but even small tasks slip through the cracks. Yesterday, I waited until after dark to wash the dishes because I kept forgetting about them. Little things like that pile up.

I focused all my time and energy hustling up drug money. When I got dope sick I couldn’t make money. And nobody would make money on my behalf.
I had run out of options. But survival mode doesn’t stop. Anyway I had to hustle- there’s no call it a day button. You just make that paper. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat

I decided to break the law by putting on a wig to cash a check. I was shaking visibly as I pulled in the bank, it’s what caught the teller’s eye, first I’m sure. Needless to say it failed so I was really sick. And I just did something so morally off it screamed, Focus Nikki, Look what you’re doing. What was I to do next?

There I sit stranded, sick, broke and all alone. It was my last straw. Writing this has taken me right back there, I’m in tears it’s so powerful to me. That moment I began to open my eyes. Addiction doesn’t just steal your money or your home — it steals your ability to see what you’re becoming. I had let it take the last thing I had left in the world: my self-respect. Without that I was truly lost… I knew I would not make it at the rate I was falling. I wasn’t falling I was dying.

I decided I had one choice so I chose my life over drugs. It’s scary as hell but looking back I almost just went home and got high. Thankfully I called an ambulance to get some help. I probably wouldn’t be here writing about it if I had chosen differently.

Life Between Two Worlds

I’ve lived in places most people don’t think about: under freeway overpasses, in alleyways, and on couches I wasn’t sure I’d still have the next morning. I’ve been freshly off fentanyl, clean but fragile, walking a line that one mistake could erase in an instant. I know fear, uncertainty, and invisibility—not as abstract ideas, but as daily companions.

Homelessness isn’t a lifestyle I chose. It’s a reality I survived. And while it’s easy for the world to lump us into stereotypes—“lazy,” “addict,” “lost causes”—the truth is, we’re people. People who laugh, dream, fight, and hurt. People who have stories that would surprise you.

Couch surfing is a strange space. You’re not exactly on the streets, but you’re not home either. Every friend’s living room has an unspoken rulebook, and every night comes with the quiet panic of, “Will I have somewhere to sleep tomorrow?” It’s gratitude mixed with anxiety, safety mixed with instability. It’s living between worlds, never fully belonging to either.

Life on the streets is different. There’s a rhythm to it—a map of places to eat, sleep, and hide. You learn how to read people quickly because survival depends on it. You learn the kindness of strangers and the cruelty of apathy. And every day is a lesson in patience, endurance, and resilience.

I want people to understand: we are not invisible by choice. We are human, and we matter. Small gestures—listening, offering a meal, acknowledging our presence—can mean the difference between hope and despair.“I miss being noticed—the smiles that once warmed me, even the looks of pity or vulgar disgust. They were attention, and in their own strange way, they felt like warmth in memory.

This blog, Homeless Reach, isn’t just about my life. It’s about connecting two worlds. It’s about helping the housed see the human behind the stereotype, and giving the homeless a voice that’s not drowned out by judgment.

I don’t have all the answers. I just know this: empathy is powerful, and understanding is the first step toward change. “Anyone can be one injury, one messy divorce, or one bad turn of luck away from walking in my worn shoes. Homelessness isn’t a moral failing or a choice—it’s life hitting hard, and sometimes there’s no soft landing.”If you take anything away from my story, let it be this—look closer, listen harder, and remember that every person you pass has a story you might never know.